This week on Mama Meets we are chatting to the QUEEN OF ZEN Nikki Wilson, mum of two boys Thomas (4) & Matty (1) and the founder of 10 of Zen which provides mindfulness tools & training to mums. Nikki explains…’Motherhood is messy and marvellous. Learning to quit the chaos for ten minutes can make a massive difference. So that's why we're here - to help you learn how to take 10 of zen so you can stress less and love more.’ Cheers to that…
What time did you wake up this morning? 6am
What was your very first thought of the day? Please go back to bed!
What are your 3 essentials for getting up, out and at 'em?
10 minutes of zen, strong layer of touché eclat & a clear plan of what you’re aiming for!
Describe a typical working morning?
I usually get to my desk by 9.15 feeling frazzled thanks to the sweaty 3-hour marathon we have run (literally) to get the boys to where they need to be. Depending on the day - I try and take my 10 of zen before I bury my head in the to-do list and try to have a decent cup of tea. I'm all about planning and trying to stay focused in the little day-time work-time I have so there's always a list. And then I try to mix it up between meetings, desk time and phone time... it's got to be varied for me otherwise I get restless!
Why did you decide to set up your business?
Because 4 1/2 years ago my own world fell apart. I learnt the hard way what it's like to be sub-zero on self-love and off-the-scale on stress. I was a brand new mum all ready to smash motherhood out of the park. And there was no ball, no park and certainly no smashing going on! Like sooo many of us, I was thrown a mental health curve ball and for me it was in the shape of postnatal PTSD. I went from a successful CEO of a national charity to not being able to leave my own bedroom without having a panic attack in the space of just two weeks. At this time, I started to take 10 minutes out most days to follow guided meditations on acceptance and self-compassion and it hugely helped me to see sunshine behind the darkest of dark clouds. It then became a habit I stuck to and my family started fondly calling it '10 of zen'. When on maternity leave with Matty, I started to develop my own style of meditation more tailored to the highs and lows of being a mum. And it was at this point I decided to set up my social business to share my love of mindfulness with more mums around the world.
What's the best part of your job?
It's definitely my work with groups of mum - I work with women to help them make 10 of zen a self-care comittment in their own lives. I run my zen squad through a remote online training community and I just love it (and I'm told they do too!).
#1 tip for juggling work and family life?
Know that the struggle is real and that it's normal to feel overwhelmed with it all - I do all the time. Then listen to that stress and anxiety and try your best to review things - cut something out, chat to your partner or go back to someone you've said yes to and say 'actually it's a no.'!
The happiest moment in your day?
Now the happiness is not guaranteed - but it's usually picking up Thomas from school. His infectious energy lifts me up... and usually it comes crashing down again by the time we're home again (ha ha!).
The hardest moment in your day?
Bath time and bed time - I so desperately want to hand over the job to someone else at that point and my husband doesn't usually pick-up on my unsubtle hints for help! ;)
Most overused word of the day?
Poo. Thomas is 4 and Poo is basically included in almost every single one of his setences!
Once the kids are in bed I...
Most nights I have dinner, have a customary natter to Rob and then settle onto the sofa with my phone. I'm growing 10 of zen through social media so most evenings I spend 1-2 hours working on building the zen love online.
Top 3 local gems?
Knole Park - so much love for that place.
Tonbridge Park - it's basically our back garden!
My mother-in-law's house - not sure that's open for all though ;)
Best piece of advice for fellow Mum's...
Know that it's OK not to be OK. That we're all juggling, struggling ang cycling through stages of thriving and striving! Oh and of course.... try out my free trial for the zen squad ;)