This week we meet Confidence Queen Lucy Baker who is Mum to Nancy (8) Ivy (6) and has a baby boy on the way (due in January 2019), Lucy is the founder of She Coaches Confidence and has just launched a new blog Geriatric Mum
Lucy runs group courses and 1-1 private coaching for women who are fed up with their lack of confidence holding them back and preventing from them from living a happy life. Geriatric Mum is a new blog that documents Lucy’s (and other geriatric mums) experiences of being an older mum, which was born from the lack of information out there for older mums. The idea to is connect and respect women who are older mums, so we highly recommend you go take a look…
What time did you wake up this morning?
0545! At the moment I always lay in for 10-mins to feel the baby kicking, then I peel myself out of bed. I used to get up at 0530 on the dot before this pregnancy but I am feeling more tired, so I am not pushing myself.
What was your very first thought of the day?
Is the baby kicking?
What are your 3 essentials for getting up, out and at 'em?
1) Shower first thing and blow-dry hair.
2) Do some mindset work – usually this is some affirmations, positive self-talk and mental prep for the day ahead (whatever that might be).
3) To sort the kids out without shouting too much!
Describe a typical working morning?
After the school run, which I do 3 out of 5 days, I check social media and schedule any topical posts for the evening using later.com. I usually book my coaching sessions during the morning, so often it is 10-12:30 on Skype connecting with private clients. I find I am much more alert in the morning and love to take advantage of that energy.
Why did you set up Geriatric Mum? As soon as I found out I was pregnant with baby number 3, I googled away looking for advice and other mum experiences and I found not a lot! I had some really interesting (unthoughtful) comments when I announced my pregnancy at 42-years old and it hit me that so many other women must feel the same! I set up geriatricmum.co.uk and wrote a bit about my experiences and now I am publishing interviews with other older Mums. Support and acceptance about being an older mum is key and as I have found in my facebook group women crave support, knowledge of the medical system as an older mum and to feel like they belong.
What's the best part of your job?
The best part of my job is managing my own time. After I had our first child I tried to go back to my job at a PR agency, but my suggestion of new lessened hours was rejected. It was at that moment I knew I had to work for myself and be my own boss. I also get a tremendous kick out of helping other women to realise their potential through my coaching work.
My own confidence was incredibly low for years and years and I really understand from a personal perspective he benefits of working on your inner and outer confidence can bring.
#1 tip for juggling work and family life?
Oooh, this is a hard one. I have to say the word juggle is real here. It is a juggle. But, due to working for myself I can engineer my week around the kids and only in the last 6-months have I really realised that I can only do so much and that it is ok to take a day off if things become too much, overwhelming or if the kids are ill. So my #1 tip is to accept what time you have, and work your t*ts off during those hours. Acceptance is key.
The happiest moment in your day?
At the moment, I have to say lunch time! I am 30-weeks pregnant, and I work solidly until 1pm and then it is lunch! I either meet a friend or have scrambled eggs from our very own chickens! I also have to say that when I know the kids are asleep this is a pretty happy moment – I love nothing more than seeing their sleeping (quiet) faces tucked up in bed.
The hardest moment in your day?
4pm! Kids are home, they are often whingey and hunnnngry. At 4pm-ish, I am wilting a bit (you know that feeling of needing a second wind) and I don’t even have wine to look forward to. The 4-7 shift is by far the hardest in our house. My husband works in London, and gets home at 7:30pm so I try to hand over to him the second he walks through the door, but I have to admit this hardly works like I want it to.
Most overused word of the day?
I bet this is a common one, but “muuuuUUUUuuuummmmmmmmm”. I have to say I am so happy to be a mummy, but that word is sometimes a massive pain to hear, especially when it is for the 150th time that day. But I guess my kids get fed up with hearing “Noooo!” all day from me, so we balance each other out.
Once the kids are in bed I...
Check social media, drink tea and try to sort uniforms out for the next day. I always look at my schedule for the next day too, and get my head into a good place for what is to come.
Top 3 local gems?
We live in Birchington on Sea…
Quex Barn - ace for food and the kids love seeing the fish stall.
Minnis Bay beach – we go there at least 2 days after school.
Best piece of advice for fellow Mum's...
Buy a slow cooker, plan in some fun times for YOU and accept that none of us know what we are doing! And, if you are a young mum or an old mum you might be labelled, but you are just as valid as any other mum on the planet.